Dr. Daniel Amen – Healing the 7 Types of ADD

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ADD is a national health crisis that continues to grow — yet it remains one of the most misunderstood and incorrectly treated illnesses today. Kids and adults are put on powerful stimulant medications in short office visits without any biological information, and the stories of these medications hurting children and adults are common and persistent.

Board certified child, adolescent and adult psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen, 8-time New York Times bestselling author of books including, “Change Your Brain, Change your Life,” was one of the first to identify there are multiple types beyond just purely hyperactive or inattentive ADD, each requiring their own unique treatments.

Dr. Amen joined Elevated Existence Magazine founder, Tammy Mastroberte, on a live call during the Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Spirit Summit to discuss the seven types of ADD, how he discovered them and how the differences are important when it comes to treatment.

“I’m a child psychologist and half of the kids a child psychologist sees have ADD of one form or another, and then I found my son and daughter had it,” he said on the live call. “Before we started doing brain imaging scans, we were basically guessing at diagnosis. If you had four out of these 9 symptoms, you have ADD . . . and take Ritalin, which for the right person it is a miracle and it works. Kids can go from D’s and F’s to A’s and B’s [in school] and have a lot more self-discipline and impulse control. But you can take another person who has those same symptoms and put them on Ritalin and they become suicidal.”

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Becoming frustrated with the treatments and options available, when Dr. Amen first started doing brain scans known as SPECT imaging in 1991, his first patient had ADD. She had been admitted into the hospital for an impulsive suicide attempt after a fight with her husband, and upon scanning the brain – once at rest, and again while she did a concentration task, he discovered her brain shut down completely when she tried to concentrate.

“I remember I put the pictures on her hospital table, and I said ‘the harder you try the worse it gets,’ and she started to cry. I told her having ADD is sort of like people who need glasses. People who need glasses aren’t dumb, crazy or stupid, their eyeballs are shaped differently and they need glasses to focus,” he said. “People who have ADD aren’t dumb, crazy or stupid, their frontal lobes turn off when they should turn on, and the medicine, supplements and diet changes turn them back on for you.”

But more importantly, what Dr. Amen and his colleagues discovered through the imaging is that not everyone who has ADD has the same pattern and will respond to the same medicine, which he said is also true with depression, anxiety disorders, addictions, and even obesity.

“It’s not one thing in the brain,” he explained. “They all have multiple types, and if you never target treatment to a person’s brain, you hurt people. I got hooked on imaging and over the next 22 years, my colleges and I now have the largest database on brain scans ever.”

In his newest book, “Healing ADD: The Breakthrough Program that Allows You to See and Heal the 7 Types of ADD,” he reveals the findings based on his year’s of scans, which look at blood flow and activity in the brain to show the areas that are healthy, those low in activity and those high in activity.

“There is one type of ADD where there is too little activity in the frontal lobe, and they do well with stimulating supplements or medications. There is another type where there is way too much activity – a pattern we call the Ring of Fire – and if you give these people a stimulant, 80 percent of the time you will make them worse, so we use things to calm their brain down. But if you never look at the brain, you will never know.”

Take the FREE Questionaire to determine your ADD Type and access Dr. Amen’s limited time Special Offer here.

The 7 Types of ADD
During the live call, Dr. Amen walked listeners through the 7 types of ADD, but explained all exhibit three or more of the hallmark symptoms of ADD, which are:

— Short attention span
— Distractibility
— Disorganization
— Procrastination
— Impulse Control Issues.

“First of all, I use the term ADD and not ADHD because half of the people who have the disorder are not hyperactive,” he said. “People generally have three, four or five of the hallmark symptoms, and not just when they are going through a divorce, lost their mother or are going through menopause. This is a symptom cluster that you need to see throughout someone’s life.”

Type 1: Classic ADD – Hyperactive and restless are the hallmark symptoms here, and many tend to be active even inside the mother’s womb, said Dr. Amen. They have a short attention span unless they are interested, can be pretty impulsive, and they are very disorganized. They also tend to be extroverts.

Type 2: Innattentive ADD – These people are introverts. Like classic ADD, they have a short attention span unless really interested, can get easily distracted, be somewhat disorganized and wait until the last minute for things, but they are not very hyperactive or impulsive.

Type 3: Overfocused ADD – Described by a Harvard professor 30 years ago, for this type of ADD, it’s not that they can’t pay attention, but they can’t shift their attention.

“They tend to get stuck on negative thoughts or negative behaviors, and if you can’t shift your attention, you can’t really pay attention,” said Dr. Amen. “So five minutes ago I said something that bothered you, that you now thought of 15 times, so you have not heard anything I’ve said.”

The mechanism in the brain for Overfocused is very different from the first two types, which is low activity in the brain. For this type, a certain area of the brain Dr. Amen calls “the gear-shifter,” works too hard, so they tend to worry, hold grudges, and when things don’t go their way they get upset. They can be argumentative, oppositional, and get into loops of thinking.

“Put this type on a stimulant, and they focus more on the things that upset them and it can really make them almost obsessive,” he noted.

Type 4: Temporal Lobe ADD – We have temporal lobes in the brain under our temple and behind our eyes, which is the part of the brain for mood stability and temper control. When one of those is hurt, people have the ADD symptoms plus mood instability, aggression, memory problems and learning problems. Stimulants can make them much worse, Dr. Amen noted.

Type 5: Limbic ADD – This is where ADD, mood disorders or depression come together, but unlike depression that comes and goes, these people have a low-grade depression with the ADD symptoms all the time.

Type 6: Ring of Fire – This type is characterized by what Dr. Amen calls the “ring of fire” in the brain where people have too much going on everywhere in the brain.

Type 7: Anxious ADD – The newest type added in the revised addition of Dr. Amen’s book (which is part of his Special Package Offer) is where people have the symptoms of anxiety, nervousness, tension, tend to predict the worst, and have trouble with timed-tests or don’t like speaking in public, along with all the other ADD symptoms.

“Each of these types has it’s own treatment, and the problem is everyone who gets diagnosed with ADD gets stimulant medication, and that’s why we constantly hear the horror stories about stimulants, even though to the right person they can be really helpful,” said Dr. Amen.

Based on thousands of scans he developed a questionnaire to let people know if they have ADD and help them determine what type. Based on the answers, people get a report on what their type is because, while there are 7 types, many people have combinations, said Dr. Amen.

To take the FREE Questionaiire to determine YOUR ADD Type and access Dr. Amen’s limited time Special Offer, click here.

Treatments & Advice for Parents
While there are prescription medications available to help with certain types of ADD, Dr. Amen also advocates several natural approaches, including supplements and changes to diet.

“I’m really excited about natural ways to heal the brain. We have all had plenty of experience with medications making people worse. Many of our patients come and they say ‘I don’t want to take medications, what can I do?’ and I really felt like I needed to honor them. It starts by knowing your ADD type.”

For example, those with Classic ADD – both children and adults can benefit greatly from an elimination diet, said Dr. Amen. A study in Holland, that has been replicated, reported 73 percent show greater than a 50 percent reduction in symptoms within just one month of an elimination diet. So the first thing to do is get your diet right, he said.

“If you are Overfocused, and you got on a high protein, low carb diet, it will make you mean, so you have to get your diet right for your individual brain type,” said Dr. Amen. “If you do have Overfocused, there are natural ways to boost serotonin. One of them is exercise, and another is eating smart carbs such as sweet potatoes and garbanzo beans. Also certain supplements like 5HTP, St. John’s Wart and spices like Saffron.”

For parents who have a child with ADD, the most important thing to do is get blood work done first, Dr. Amen explained. This is one of the recommendations he gives in his plan “Heal ADD at Home in 30 Days,” which is part of his Special Offer, found at the end of the FREE questionnaire.

“If a child’s thyroid is off, he won’t get better. If he has allergies or infection, he won’t get better until you figure that out. If his iron is low, the medication, supplements or dietary interventions won’t work. Knowing your important numbers is one of the hallmark things we work on,” he explained.

It’s also important for parents to realize the harder their child tries the worse it gets for them because their brains shut off when they are suppose to turn on. Parents need to stop putting pressure on them and become their advocate, said Dr. Amen.

“Also, ADD kids and adults are often conflict seeking and adrenaline seeking. For ADD, we use stimulants, but without them, these people will find ways to stimulate themselves, and for kids, often what they do is pick on the most irritable parent in the family and work on them over and over,” he noted. “So if you scream at an ADD child, there is a part of him that likes that, and he will figure out a way to make you do it again. One of the first things we do is to teach people not to yell.”

Another recommendation for ADD is to exercise. Michael Phelps, an Olympian swimmer, took medication until the 6^th grade when he realized with intense exercises – for him it was swimming – he was a lot more focused and did better, said Dr. Amen.

Fish oil can also be very helpful, but not just DHA. People with ADD also need EPA, which is more stimulating and can be helpful for those types who need it. For those who are looking to calm down, Dr. Amen recommends focused breathing, which is especially good for those with Anxious or Temporal Lobe ADD.

Sleeping & Waking Up
Both children and adults with ADD often have trouble going to sleep at night because they find themselves restless, but then also find it impossible to wake up in the morning. And for kids, if they don’t get 9 to 10 hours of sleep at night, they will be a lot more ADD the next day, said Dr. Amen.

“Also, sleep apnea, which is where they are snoring at night and not getting good oxygen to their brain – this really increases the expression of ADD, and some people think it is one of the major causes,” he noted. “Because we are not taking tonsils and adenoids out like we used to, kids are having a lot more sleep apnea problems. If you notice your kid is snoring, its important to have an ENT look in their throat to make sure their airway is not being blocked at night.”

Hypnosis CDs can help both children and adults get to sleep at night, and for parents trying to wake up their children in the morning Dr. Amen said to find music they really like and set it to start playing a half hour before they need to get up. Also, giving them their medication or stimulating supplements a half hour before they are ready to get up can help them.

To take the FREE Questionaiire to determine YOUR ADD Type and access Dr. Amen’s limited time Special Offer, click here.

Sarah McLean: Meditation Tips and Awakening

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Meditation can increase our creativity, happiness and fulfillment, and is known to have many positive effects on the physical body. It is often the foundation of many spiritual practices and teachings, and assists in calming the mind, enhancing intuition and awakening the soul to connect us with our higher self.

Sarah McLean, bestselling author of the book “Soul-Centered: Transform Your Life in 8 Weeks with Meditation,” and founder of the McLean Meditation Institute in Sedona, Ariz., joined Elevated Existence Magazine founder, Tammy Mastroberte, to kick off the new year as part of the Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body and Soul Summit, and revealed her 5 Essentials for meditation, sample mantras to use when first starting out, and so much more.

She started by explaining there are a variety of forms meditation can take, including two overall types – Open Awareness, which is where you focus on sights or sounds – and Focused Meditation, where you use a mantra, or focus on a candle flame, sound you chant or movement. The most highly researched form of meditation is mindfulness meditation, also known as insight meditation or breath awareness meditation, and there is also meditation for transcendence.

“Meditation that allows for transcendence is transcendental meditation, primordial sound meditation or other forms of mantra meditations,” said McLean. “When you start the mantra you are aware of where you are and what you are doing, and then you transcend body awareness and breath awareness. You transcend time and even who you think you are and your ideas about yourself and the world.”

However, meditation only works if you do it and if you choose one that you like to do, she said, explaining there are a number of myths that come along with the practice. The first is looking for a mystical or spiritual experience to happen during meditation.

“When we are looking for an experience like that in meditation, it can really inhibit the natural unfoldment of your spiritual awareness,” she said on the call. “The true mystical and spiritual experiences happen as we are living our lives. When your intuition is so strong and you know that you are suppose to go and talk to that person, or you know you are suppose to take a left and you do and it takes you into a magical experience.”

Another myth is meditation is only done correctly when the mind is totally clear. Meditation does help one to clear the mind, but the benefit of the practice often happens when you are not on the meditation mat, said McLean.

“What we learn to do in meditation is to create a different relationship with our mental activity. We learn that it is going to go on anyway because it’s the nature of your mind to think, just like it’s the nature of your mind to see,” she explained. “Your job in meditation is to shift without too much effort, to the focus of your meditation, whether it’s a mantra, the candle flame or breath awareness, and just keep coming back without judgment. Without adding more thoughts to it. There is a coherence created and a clarity created. Even if you sit down and all you do is have thoughts, as long as you keep coming back and refocusing on your meditation with a gentle awareness, then you transform that reactivity center of the brain.”

There is so much research available now showing the amygdala – the part of the brain that is reactive – is where benefits of meditation can be seen. This part of the brain starts to loosen its hold on us in terms of our reaction, and by retraining the brain to go back to the mantra or the breath, we are creating more spaciousness, she said.

“Sometimes we get an impulse in meditation to get up and send that email or make that phone call or go have some food, but if you sit through it, you are transforming your response, you are changing the habits, the neuronal pathways, so that you shift that reactionary response,” McLean noted.

She also shared her 5 Essentials for Meditation, which are:

1. Treat Yourself Well, and Be Kind to Yourself
2. Have No Expectations about What Should Happen
3. Have a Beginner’s Mind Open to Possibilities
4. Don’t Try Too Hard (less is more in meditation)
5. Don’t Give Up

Stress Relief From Meditation
Often when we are the most restless, we feel the least like sitting to meditate, but often that is when we need it most. And when we are in the midst of a meditation and become restless, this is actually a sign we are releasing stress from the mind and body, said McLean.

“Meditation is the perfect antidote for stress,” she said. “As the mind settles down and the body settles down, you start to create this coherence. What happens is this coherence helps to eliminate any built up stress in the nervous system. There is a purification process that goes on, and impurities start to move out as you are sitting there saying your mantra. They start to generate movement, whether it’s movement of the mind, movement of the body or movement of the emotions.”

One key point to remember is when our mind becomes active with thoughts during a meditation, it is often of our to-do list or current, mundane issues we have to do. But these thoughts have no relationship to the stress we are releasing, said McLean.

“The fact that you are having thoughts, the movement of the thoughts, is an indication you are releasing stress, but the content of the thoughts has no particular correlation to the stress you are releasing,” she explained.

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The Crystal Garden Aromatherapy Sprays & Mists

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Aromatherapy can change the energy of a room, have an effect on our mood, and so much more. Margaret Ann Lembo, aromatherapist and award-winning author of “Chakra Awakening,” and “The Essential Guide to Crystals, Minerals and Stones,” created a line of therapeutic-quality, medical grade essential oils and aromatic mists that are unlike anything we have seen before!

From mists to call in certain angels, such as her award-winning Archangel Raphael spray to a Prosperity Mist helping to increase success in business and improve mental clarity, her blends are unique and can be helpful for a variety of spiritual needs. Her tagline is “Healing the Planet One Spritz at a Time.”

The majority of the formulas include medical grade oils, gemstone tinctures, holy waters and sacred site essences from around the world, as well as Bach Flower essences, Vibhuti and Aura Soma.

We especially like the Sage and Cedar Spray to help clear out negativity, anger, jealousy and unwanted thought forms, and the Smudge it Spray, which also clears a space and can be used instead of burning sage.

View all of the varieties, including her line of essential oils at www.thecrystalgardenstore.com — and stay tuned for her new Chakra Spray series out this month!

Pat Pearson: How to Stop Self-Sabotage

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If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be? Why do you think you don’t have it?

People often tell themselves it’s because of bad luck, the economy, their mother, or diets that don’t work. The truth is, each of these describes some kind of self-sabotage.

As part of the Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Soul Summit, Pat Pearson, clinical psychotherapist and author of “Stop Self-Sabotage! How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Have an Extraordinary Life,” was interviewed by Elevated Existence Magazine founder, Tammy Mastroberte, about how to stop self-sabotage, and offered advice and exercises to help people navigate how they sabotage themselves in their own lives.

“Self-sabotage is the conscious and unconscious ways we trip ourselves up when we are running toward the finish line,” Pearson said on the call. “It’s the way we make sure we don’t get what we say we most want.”

Some of the common ways we self-sabotage ourselves is through denial or settling for less. We say we want something, but take less than that, said Pearson. Another common way is talking ourselves out of something before we even start. Saying things like ‘diets don’t work,’ or ‘nobody can lose weight,’ or ‘there are no good men left.’

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There are three main areas of our life where self-sabotage kicks up – personal life and health; relationships; and career and business. But the real question is why would we do that to ourselves, she asked. Why do we diet intensely for a month and a half, and then put back 20 pounds over the next six months? Why do we keep picking the wrong guy for us five times in a row? The answer comes down to what Pearson calls our “deserve level.”

“Our deserve level is the level to which we believe we deserve to be successful or get what we want,” said Pearson. “We all have this level. It’s like your IQ, only I call it DQ or deserve quotient.”

This level can change based on the area we are looking at, as well. For example, we can have a high deserve level in health, but not in career. But to one degree or another, we all suffer from self-sabotage, said Pearson. The question is how much do we do it, and how much is it hurting us?

“If you don’t believe you deserve something, you either won’t go after it, or you will find a way to self-sabotage,” she explained. “This deserve level is a thermometer for what we can really tolerate in terms of having what we want in our life. Sometimes we can’t tolerate success. It makes us too uncomfortable.”

What is Behind Self-Sabotage?
There are psychological reasons behind our deserve level, and there are certain themes that run through them, including our beliefs, our self esteem and self-confidence, and permission from our past.

“What goal would you really like to achieve in the next year? Think about the beliefs you have around making that goal happen. What do you tell yourself? It happens under our awareness a lot, and it creeps up to tell us we can’t have things or we don’t deserve something or don’t have time for it,” said Pearson. “You will have to deal with this inner voice that says things to you when you are trying to achieve something.”

Energy follows thought, and when we have beliefs going on – negative and positive – the negative always wins because that is what is stronger in most of us, she said. If we are thinking negatively about something, we are putting energy into it and that creates resistance. Unearthing these negative beliefs is important in stopping self-sabotage, she said.

“First chart out what those negative beliefs are and then we can go about psychologically working on them and changing them,” said Pearson. “Every external change starts internally. Write down the negatives about what you want, and then write down the positives.”

The second part of the deserve level is self-esteem and self-confidence. Both create who we are, and both can hold us back from achieving our goals. Self-esteem is unconditional acknowledgment for who we are as a human being because we are a good and lovable. This is given to us by the people who love us, and also by ourselves.

“If you are eternally self critical about everything you do, you are eating away at your self-esteem, so it’s not just outside of you, it has to be reinforced by what you say to yourself,” says Pearson.

Self-confidence is created by conditional acknowledgement, meaning we have to do something to get it. It’s based on performance. We either write a great book, sing a wonderful song, get an A on a biology paper, or bake a great cake and win an award. When we do something well, and are acknowledged for it, it boosts our self-confidence.

“It’s possible for someone who has high self confidence to have low self esteem or vice versa, but we need to have both,” said Pearson. “Give yourself a rating on a scale of 1 to 10 for where am you are in terms of self-esteem. How loved and lovable do you feel. Do the same with self-confidence. Whatever area you rated the lowest, that is the area that will bug you the most. We all have some area, and whatever is the lowest is the area you’re deserve level needs to be raised in.”

Lastly, we need permission from our past. We all grew up in families where we received certain messages about ourselves, and were told we had certain characteristics. These are permissions that become part of us, and either help us move forward or hold us back, said Pearson.

“This information goes into who you are and these messages become part of our belief system,” she explained. “They become part of our permission system and are the unconscious messages either holding us back in certain areas or moving us forward.”

An exercise we can use to uncover these messages is to pretend we are talking to our mother and telling her two goals we have for ourselves in the next year. Then listen to what she says back in our heads regarding our ability to achieve the goals. Then do the same with your father.

“These messages are the radio in the background. They are unheard a lot of the time, but are things we are telling ourselves. These are either the floodgates we can open to get us more, or the constraints that keep us held in. The key is to change the negative ones and give ourselves new permissions to succeed,” said Pearson.

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Find What is Missing
No matter what goal we are trying to achieve, personal, health or business, there are five areas we need to have in order so we can be successful in achieving any goal.

These are:

1. Vision – We need to see where we are going, and the end product clearly.

2. Emotional Skills – We need the internal emotional skills to be able to handle what is going to come up in the process of achieving a goal, such as resistance, rejection, how to use ‘no’ to get a ‘yes,’ and how to have courage and hope.

3. Motivation – You have to be motivated and use time wisely. You have to want to do it and believe you can.

4. People Skills – To get anything in life, we need to deal with other people. We need to know how to handle them, and how to balance getting our own happiness with being thoughtful of someone else.

5. Consistent Work Plan – You have to do something to make it happen.

“If you have all of these things in balance, you will be having fun and making money, or having fun and losing weight. That is the feeling result that you want when these things are all in order,” said Pearson.

But when one or more of these things are missing, we end up with a result that sabotages our progress. Without vision, we are confused. Without emotional skills, we suffer from fear and anxiety. Without motivation, we suffer ambivalence. Without people skills, we find ourselves frustrated. And without a consistent work plan, we end up with a bunch of false starts that lead us nowhere near our goals.

“Here is the thing that separates people from having a breakthrough from those who don’t … someone who is willing to learn something knew,” said Pearson. “You have learned to self-sabotage and you can unlearn it.”

Law of Attraction: You Get What You Give

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By Sherry Winn

I heard a heartbreaking story the other day about parents who disowned their daughter because she came out to them as a lesbian. Their religious beliefs held that being a homosexual was a sin, so they chose not to love the “sin” of their daughter. To them, it also meant they couldn’t love their daughter.

I include this story not to determine who is right or wrong. It is not about the rightness. It is about the choice of love and the choice of judgment.

Why is this important in the law of attraction?

What does it feel like when love is removed from your life? Take a moment to reflect on how that feels. Can you remember a partner deserting you, a parent withholding affection, or the loss of beloved pet? When you think back on that loss, what do you feel?

Anger?
The desire for justice?
Abandoned?
Unworthy?
A hole in your heart?

If you sit in silence and allow yourself to move through that experience, does it feel like an old story absent of emotion? Or does it still hold some negative vibrations within you? If you can tell the story without your stomach getting queasy, your heart aching, or tension in your shoulders, then you have left the story behind you. If you still have a body part or emotion attached to the story, you have not given yourself permission to move beyond it.

When you hold the absence of love within you, you are holding negative vibrations. You are not permitting the greatest source of energy to flow through you. Positive vibrations are necessary to attract more of the things you love.

It is easy to believe we can love some people and hate others — that there is some line we can draw between love and hate as if this invisible barrier makes us immune to the negative vibrations of hate. It is okay to hate others who are bad. Right?

There is a quote from “A Course in Miracles,” which states:

“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see in him, you will also see in yourself. As you treat him, you will also treat yourself.”

We cannot separate the emotion we feel for others from ourselves. When we offer hatred, disgust, revulsion, misunderstanding or judgment toward others, it does not somehow jump on them and leave us. We are left with the residue of those emotions. We harbor them. What we think we give to another is, in fact, what we offer ourselves.

The law of attraction is about vibrations — positive, free-flowing vibrations. If you want to attract love, but withhold love, are you offering both a positive and a negative vibration in the same moment? Are you contradicting yourself? In truth, you are pulling in opposite directions and wanting one side to win.

The question to ask yourself is: What side do I want to win? The side which withholds love from another because I do not understand or agree with him, or the side of me which believes I am worthy of unconditional love even though I cannot give it?

Maybe you judged the parents who disowned their daughter because they wanted to honor their religious beliefs. Or maybe you judged the daughter who is a lesbian. It is not the question of who you judged. It is the question of how the judgment feels within you.

When you judge another, what are you judging about yourself? And how does that judgment feel?

It is the feeling that determines your ability to attract. The more negative vibrations you have within you, the harder it is to attract what you desire. How do you learn to be more loving and nonjudgmental? This is a lifelong quest, but you can begin with simple steps:

Become aware of how the emotions you are emitting feel inside you.
Practice saying, “I love you” to yourself.
Engage in the art of empathy.
Recognize judgments as they come and release them.
Align yourself with people who are on a quest of personal development.

The law of attraction is the law of positive vibrations. By learning to love more and judge less, you are aligning yourself with greater opportunities.

Sherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.

Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking.

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at sherrymwinn@gmail.com, through her website at www.ucancreatesuccess.com or on Facebook.

Paul Scheele: Optimizing the Brain for Successful Relationships

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What if you could reprogram your mind to be happy no matter what, to improve your self-esteem and to become magnetic to people around you so all your relationships could improve?

Paul Scheele, co-founder of Learning Strategies Corp., combined his background in biology, human development, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), accelerate learning and more, to help other achieve the results they want in relationships, work, money and health, easier and faster then through traditional methods. He is an expert on learning how to tap the other 90% of the mind (the subconscious) and his work has been used by several well-know, peak performance experts such as Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, Ken Blanchard and Brian Tracy.

Speaking on the Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Soul Summit, Scheele explained how we can reprogram our brain to improve relationships in both our business and personal life, rather than running on the old programs set years ago.

“What we can do is install more positive, more functional strategies within us that allow us to get the results we truly desire,” Scheele said on the call, explaining most of us are operating on the dysfunctional programs given to us by our family, society, religion, etc. “If [the mind] is running on autopilot, the autopilot has been trained historically in an unquestioning way. We have accepted a lot of programming of our culture, which contains a lot of blind spots.”

Scheele explained how the different parts of the brain operate, including the part known as the reptilian, which gets activated when we are afraid for our safety, and around that, the mammalian or limbic system, devoted to emotional safety. There is also the neocortex, devoted to judging and making sure our reality stays in tact, he explained.

“The exciting thing being discovered by researchers today – the next evolutionary step – is called the prefrontal cortex or frontal orbital cortex, and this is where we are actually living into the emerging future,” he said on the call. “If we can learn to make values-based decisions, rather then decisions based on fear, worry and doubt, then we are transcending and moving into what our full potential is — what is really trying to emerge.”

Using NLP, Holosync technology and his expertise in preconscious processing and accelerated learning, Scheele developed Paralminial technology – an idea that came to him in 1976 before the technology was available to carry out his ideas.

“In 1981, my business partner and I had a cassette recorder with stereo microphones, and one of us what speaking in one channel and the other in another channel. One would do a guided visualization, and in the other ear the person was guiding the listener in a step-by-step process of change,” Scheele said.

A similar technique is used today, but with the sophisticated digital recording available, the Paraliminal technology is even better. “It uses neuro-linguistic programming and language, speaking to both sides of your brain simultaneously to access that vast non-conscious mind and put you in touch with the resources to accomplish what you want,” Scheele explained. “These go right into contact with those resources already within you.”

For the Living an Elevated Existence Summit, Scheele put together a package of four paraliminals – Instantaneous Personal Magnetism, Self-Esteem Super Charger, Positive Relationships and Happy for No Reason – along with two videos, including “Love and Long Life,” with bestselling author and relationship expert Dr. John Gray. Summit listeners can purchase the package for 60 percent off the retail price.

Recipe for Successful Relationships
When looking at the word ‘relationship,’ the key part of is ‘relating,’ said Scheele, who shared his four core abilities for relating. These are:

1. Kindness, Compassion and Appreciation – “Very often we are raised with very shame-based ways of communicating. ‘What is wrong with you? Can’t you do anything right? I hear you, but you’re wrong.’ How do we tap in to see the awakened self in another,” he said, explaining the Indian tradition of placing our hands on our chest and saying Namaste is about the divinity in us seeing the divinity in another. “So this idea of developing kindness, compassion and appreciation for another is so huge.”

2. Accepting Personal Responsibility – We need to move from being dependent in relationships to interdependence, said Scheele. We are the creator of our own happiness and need to take responsibility for that rather than relying on another person.

“A real, healthy relationship is one which is an interdependent partnership. So we are eliminating helplessness, and we are really realizing our true power as individuals,” he said. “We feel that it’s better to be with each other. We are stronger. We have more fun, and it’s companionship. But if you don’t’ fulfill your 50 percent of the relationship, I’m not 50 percent lost. We each come into the relationship at 100 percent.”

3. Choose Honest Self-Reflection and Truthfulness – Choosing honest self reflection and truthfulness requires a certain amount of vulnerability, and in her studies, bestselling author Brene Brown found the one thing that correlates with overcoming shame is vulnerability, Scheele shared. What is requires is to reflect and go for the truth with ourselves and in our relationships.

When we have done something we feel bad about, often we choose not to tell our partner because we don’t want to hurt them. However, we are then living a lie, which takes a lot of energy, he noted. Instead we can speak from a place of truth.

We can say, “I really want to share with you something that I don’t’ feel good about. I feel sorry that I did it, and I would like to make it right with you, and I understand that if you can’t tolerate the thought that I’ve done this and you need to leave the relationship, then that is my responsibility, and I get it. You need to take care of yourself but here it is,” said Scheele.

4. Honor the Space Between Us as Unique – “I have me and you have you, and when we come together, there is a space between us that is ‘we’ or ‘us,’ and there is a mutual benefit of being here intentionally,” he explained. “It’s not important what emerges between our ears, it’s what is between our noses, and that is what is called presencing. It’s being present and sensing what is emerging that is more valuable then me living my life alone and you living your life alone.”