Many people believed it was a desirable thing to go out and assert their power and independence by having whatever sexual experiences they wanted. But things have changed and many of these people have taken up yoga or meditation. They’ve gone green, and have chosen to live a more conscious and spiritual life. And for those who are not married or in long-term, committed relationships, that old way of dating and mating doesn’t feel right anymore.
A quiet sexual revolution is happening and it is called “Spiritual Dating.” You may be already doing it and not even know it, or you may be seeking a new, more conscious way to experience your love life and this may be your answer.
Spiritual Dating means dating as if all people are sacred. Imagine that. What would that be like? In this case, sacred means special, a treasure, and worthy of respect and kindness.
The tenets of Spiritual Dating apply in the following three ways:
You – You are sacred. Picture dating as if you are sacred. What would that be like? You would be recognizing your specialness and feeling confident in it. You would accept only dates that resonated for you, and not put yourself in situations that didn’t feel right. You would honor and respect the specialness of your body, and it would transform your sex life and encourage major discernment as far as partners go. In short, you would be on your way to creating emotional safety for yourself.
Your Dates – Your dates are sacred. Each potential date you meet is a sacred being, even if he or she may not be the right person for you. In the case of your exes, he or she may not have been a good person for you to for you to date, but they are all sacred. Your behavior in this case would change because if someone asked you on a date, you would see them as sacred, and treat them with kindness – even if you said no to the date. And if after a few dates you weren’t feeling it, you’d be kind but honest and straight with them, letting them know so they could move on. You’d behave with an extra high standard of integrity, therefore, you would also be more likely to magnetically attract dates with that same high standard for their own behavior.
Being Seen – People you date must see you and themselves as sacred. That means they are doing the above too! For your sex life, this is the revolution! You and your potential partner see each other as worthy of respect and kindness, and as special, sacred people. That is the only way you choose to share intimacy. This one change can transform your entire love life. Really give some thought to how that could apply in your life. It may not be easy, but it is far more satisfying, and creates an internal environment of self-trust and self-love. Your actions will even be demonstrating to your body how sacred you are! That conscious choice can actually resolve health issues in the reproductive and whole body arenas.
Spiritual dating and sacred sexuality are a sexual and spiritual evolution. Have you already started down this path? Share your stories and ask your questions here in the comments section.
Amy Leigh Mercree is the author of “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, & Soul Mates,” a Spiritual Dating & Relationship Coach, and a Medical Intuitive. For more fun articles and her dating advice column visit her blog and website:www.spiritualgirlsguide.com.
I think I’m currently on this new path of spiritually dating. It’s very new to me so I thought it was just a “weird relationship”, but in a good way. I was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for so long that I just assumed that the dating game has changed. This new guy is nothing like I’m used to. Our relationship is built on a solid foundation of friendship and respect which would confuse me at times, leading me to wonder, “Am I friend zoned? Is he not attracted to me? Why doesn’t he try to sleep with me?” But our dates and interactions are very meaningful, fulfilling, wholesome and fun….There’s no other way to explain it
It just seems right and uncomplicated. We talk about our beliefs, values and morals and discuss life philosophies. We like to hear what each has to say and always support and uplift one another. It’s very beautiful. Spiritual dating is mind blowingly amazing and soul satisfying. Our relationship isn’t based on appearance or superficial commonalities. It’s a deep and enriching bond.