By Sherry Winn

How many times must you ask before you receive? Is there a perfect number?

It is easy to get stuck in the asking mode. After all, we have a habit of doing that in our lives. Did you ever ask your mother or father for something over and over again until they relented? Did you ever bug a brother or sister for a ride in their car until they said, “Okay?” Did you ever bother a coach for a chance to play until you got on the court?

We learned if we kept asking, most of the time we would get what we wanted.

So it is easy to understand our tendency to ask the Universe over and over again for our desires. But does that work in the Law of Attraction?

It seems like it should. After all the more we ask, the more it seems like the Universe would know how much we really want it. It keeps our desires right out there in the forefront of all that is. We want to be number one in line.

The problem with multiple asking is this: It starts to sound like begging or whining. Probably your mother or father gave in to you because they became exhausted from the constant torture of your asking. They were tired of your whining.

But the Universe is not based on the “Law of Whining.”

The Vibration of Having Vs. Lack
Think about it. When you are continually asking, are you asking from a place of having it or from a place of wanting it? When you beg, are you feeling good? What is your vibration when you are whining? The more you ask, the more you sound desperate. Desperation is opposite of the vibration you want to emit.

The Law of Attraction is based on getting what you think about most of the time. If you are repeatedly asking, you are coming from a place of lack, not from a place of having what you desire. You are actually thinking about NOT having what you want when you keep asking again and again.

How then do you continue to think about what you desire without asking?

1. Spend time every day visualizing in detail what you have asked for. Add color, sound, texture and emotion to the visualization. The closer you get to feeling it, the closer you get to having it.

2. Devote a small amount of the day pretending you have what you want. If you want a new house, actually go visit new houses. Look at them and pretend you already own the home.  See a dinner party you are holding at your new home. See your children running around the house or you enjoying the view. Make the house yours in your mind.

3. Go to the store or mentally shop online. Give yourself an amount you want to spend. Pick out the things you want. Spend your mental money on the things you desire. Feel how good it is to have them.

4. Take time to make a vision board. Glue all the things you want on the board. Enjoy the feeling of having the things as you create your board.

During your process of imagining, stop immediately if you find yourself thinking you can’t have it or you don’t deserve it.  If you start trying to figure out how it is going to happen, you might get lost in the belief that having it is too hard or impossible. Remember the most important thing when playing any daydreaming game it you must enjoy the process. Feeling is everything.

Start manifesting with something small you desire. Work on things you believe you can have and deserve to have. If you begin asking for one-million dollars while you are only making $50,000, you will probably find your mind is not ready for that leap. Go with something that feels natural to you until you find success with the process.

Remember: ask once and then begin to believe. It is not the asking which creates the outcome; it is the FAITH.

Sherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.

Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking. 

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at sherrymwinn@gmail.com, through her website at www.ucancreatesuccess.com or on Facebook.