Law of Attraction: Believing Comes Before Creating

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A friend of mine, Wendy, is a cowgirl who loves to team rope. She is a heeler, a unique position for a woman because most heelers are men. A roper has more challenges to rope the feet of a steer, which are constantly moving and changing direction rather than roping the horns, which have limited movement.

During recent roping events, Wendy has been in the zone, capturing her target with ease. When she told me about roping in the zone, she said: “It is surreal. I barely want to breathe fearing my breath might disrupt the mental zone I have been in. Everything is going right. I can’t miss.”

I responded: “Why don’t you change your belief system to think you can rope in the zone the majority of the time?”

“Belief comes from repeated success under the same conditions,” Wendy said.

Most people believe you have to experience success before you can have success. My friend believed there was only one way to get into the zone—practice the physical skills long enough until she had the confidence to create the success.

What if the truth was something different? What if the truth was she created success because she believed she should be successful? It wasn’t the practice, which allowed her to rope in the zone. It was the belief system. The key was she had to feel she deserved success.

Wendy was practicing the law of attraction whether she knew it or not. The more she practiced, the more she told herself she was good, and the more she told herself she was good, the better she became.

We can impact the flow of Source energy through us by expanding or contracting ourselves through our thoughts, which create our beliefs and in turn create our reality. Choosing and practicing positive thoughts expands us and opens us up to the flow of Source Energy and abundance. Choosing to focus on negative thoughts contracts us and constricts the flow of Source energy, creating limitations in our abilities, talents and potential and our circumstances overall.

The key to Wendy’s success was her belief she deserved to have limited success, yet she couldn’t see the possibility of roping in the zone on a consistent basis. This was a belief she learned from other people.

You don’t have to be like Wendy. By shifting your worthiness paradigm, you can live your life in the zone. You don’t have to physically practice a skill 10,000 times to be deserving of success, but you do have to shift your belief system.

How do you match your desires with the feeling of worthiness?

1. Acknowledge you came from Source energy, and as such, you have the characteristics of Source energy.

2. You are a creator and have the ability to create your life through your thoughts.

3. We live in an abundant universe and are born with everything we need to live an abundant life.

4. We are born worthy. We don’t have to become worthy. It is our right.

5. Forgiveness has already happened. We are forgiven before we even act. We can shed our guilt and shame through this knowledge allowing more goodness to come in.

6. The more we are willing to give love (peace, joy, compassion, understanding, etc.) to others, the more we transcend our own fears and open ourselves up to the flow of love and abundance in our lives.

7. As we release resistance, and live in the state of receiving, we allow more goodness to flow through us.

If you are stuck like my friend Wendy in the old belief paradigm – that you have to work hard to be successful and then you can only touch the zone on occasion, then it is time to make a shift in your beliefs. You can only achieve what you believe and live what you believe you deserve.

Sherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.

Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking.

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at sherrymwinn@gmail.com, through her website at www.ucancreatesuccess.com or on Facebook.

Guilt and the Law of Attraction

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By Sherry Winn

None of us would want to attack ourselves because what person loves the outcome of beating up on himself, right?

Most people would link the word “attack” to a physical act like slamming a fist into a wall or kicking a door. Others might think of an addiction to drugs or alcohol, or something a little more innocuous like an addiction to chocolate or caffeine. We might all agree these acts are labeled as attacks against ourselves.

But what about guilt? Do you consider guilt as attack against yourself?

Guilt has been viewed as something positive. It creates the needed punishment so we won’t choose the wrong path again. But is it the way to forgiveness, or is it simply of means of re-punishing ourselves and keeping ourselves stuck in misery for something we’ve already learned?

Guilt is the result of believing we are not worthy. Standing in guilt we cannot reach positive vibrations. We are separate and disconnected from love. Love is the highest vibration we can seek, and guilt exists on the low vibrational end of the spectrum.

A Course In Miracles states, “What guilt has wrought is ugly, fearful and very dangerous. See no illusion of truth and beauty there.”

We want to avoid negative emotions because we know they are the opposite of all we desire. When we feel bad, our energy vibrates at the wrong frequency causing us to attract the very thing we want to avoid. We create what we expect and invite those experiences into our lives. When we expect punishment, which is what guilt is, we experience it.

Recently, I was working with a young man, Justin, who is on the journey to becoming a professional baseball player. He understands the power of the law of attraction and works diligently to stay in alignment with his dream, but he also allows his guilt to attack his desires.

Even though Justin leads the league in batting, he began to doubt his talents. He said, “I feel if something is off in my life, I psyche myself out, which is my ego telling me I will not play well because I’ve made a mistake. The guilt sends me into a funk of unworthiness and I lose my ability to swing a bat.”

This is the power of the ego. It attacks with guilt and creates fear even when facts point in the opposite direction. The ego attacks our faith and shoves us out of positive vibration. As soon as Justin allowed guilt to enter his mind, his swing of the bat diminished.

How did Justin realign himself with positive vibrations to get his swing back? He took the same steps you can take:

1. Remind yourself the ego wants us in guilt and wishes us to bow down to a lack of faith.
2. The ego is the opposite of all you are.
3. You come from Source Energy.
4. As Source Energy, you are entitled to all good things.
5. Strength is the truth about you; weakness is an illusion.
6. When you fall into the ego’s trap of illusion, you are not aligning yourself with who you really are.
7. You are Source Energy and a creator in your life.

When we allow guilt to rule us and to shove our faith of goodness out, we attack ourselves. We create separation from who we were meant to be. Once separated, we can no longer feel positive vibration. Positive vibration is alignment with ALL that is good.

You came to this life experience to re-remember who you really are and to align yourself with all that is good. You are a creator and as such, you get to choose where to live your life. Guilt is a choice as is love. Love is connecting to your desires while guilt is attacking yourself. You came from love; it is your origin. Let go of guilt to experience your desires.

The Law of Right Action in Achieving Your Desires

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By Sherry Winn

I recently talked to a 23-year-old woman who was disgusted with the law of attraction. She claimed it didn’t work, so I asked her, “Why do you think it doesn’t work?”

“I’ve been trying to attract a new life, and I’m still living my old one,” she said.

So I asked her what she has done differently to attract a new life, and she told me,

“I’ve worked on changing my mindset. I focus on what I want, not what I don’t want. I’ve visualized. I’ve meditated. I’ve said affirmations and little has changed.”

“How long have you been working at changing your mindset?” I asked.

She crossed her arms, sighed in exasperation and said, “Six months.”

Having an attitude like hers is nothing new. We want what we want when we want it. We live in a society where we can get a complete meal in two minutes, order a book on Kindle and receive it within seconds, and TiVo our favorite shows so we can fast forward through unwanted commercials. We think we should attract what we desire in seconds, in minutes or at least in six months.

I understood frustration. She made a decision and then made a commitment to change her habits. She knew the importance of creating the right mindset and the necessary steps to create that mindset.

When I asked what action steps she had taken to change her life, she responded, “I’ve changed my mindset.”

But what she didn’t understand is the law of attraction also involves the “Law of Right Action.” It is not just about creating the right thinking; it is about taking the right action steps, too.

For years I imagined my perfect body weight. I pasted an athletic body on a vision board with a trim waist, muscular biceps and skinny thighs, and then superimposed my head on the body. I visualized my perfect body weight. I read my affirmations with positive feelings. I changed my diet. I exercised. I did nutritional cleanses. What happened? My weight continued to climb. And I got angry. I did all the things I was supposed to do, and I got the opposite of what I desired. I was on the edge of believing this law of attraction thing was for the birds.

Yet I persisted. I continued to have faith. Finally, a friend tossed out the idea my thyroid might not be working correctly. I did a blood and saliva test and discovered my adrenals and thyroid were malfunctioning, which causes weight gain, fatigue and depression. Even though I had been taking action steps, I hadn’t been taking the right ones for me. I kept doing the wrong things over and over again expecting new results. I was acting, but not in the right way. When I corrected my supplements, I saw immediate weight loss.

This is critical to understand. The law of attraction gets you in the right mindset, which allows you to take action. Most people never take the first step because they can’t get beyond their minds. Once you have faith, believing you will get what you want, it is much easier to take action. Then you must take the “right” action. If you don’t take the right action, you will do what I did, and just keep getting better at getting worse, which drives you straight to frustration and doubt.

It was actually through the law of attraction that I attracted that friend who had the answer for me!

There is no doubt about that in my mind, yet I still had to take the right actions to get the best outcomes. If you are not getting what you want and you have the right mindset, check your action steps.

Success is just an inch away from where you are.

The Law of Action (in the Law of Attraction)

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By Sherry Winn

There is one aspect of the law of attraction that many people refuse to talk about, and that is the aspect of ACTION.

It is true you must first work on your mind before you can believe you can achieve anything, but the belief in itself is not enough. You have to take action on the ideas and dreams that have been cultivating in your mind.

The first step is intention – knowing what you want and having the intention you will get it, but how many people have you met who had the intention of doing something and never took the first step? They tell you they want to be the next Michael Jordan, Lady Gaga, or Ernest Hemingway, but they spend all their time daydreaming and none of their time taking action steps.

The most important step to take once you have your mind attracting what you want, and you’ve worked on your internal language, is to take action. Once you have birthed an idea, you have given it creation in the universe. It is there for others to also find and view. If you fail to take action on it, somebody else will, and you lose your opportunity.

Those who found success utilizing the law of attraction are those who spent time moving toward their dreams. One of the best ways to move toward your dreams is to write them down. Something magical happens when you write dreams down on paper. The dream gets a life of it’s own. It becomes a possibility that can stare back at you, and ask what you’re going to do about it. The act of writing gives you a permanent record, shows you are serious, keeps you accountable and helps you work things through.

When you write down your dreams, include the following components:

1. Be specific.
2. Include a deadline.
3. Begin with the end in mind.
4. Write down goals in time increments. Write down 10-year, 5-year, 3-year, and 1-year goals.
5. Write down why you want to accomplish your dreams. What is the compelling reason you have behind reaching your dreams?
6. Proclaim your dreams. Affirm you dreams. Post your dreams.

Writing your dreams down is an action step. You have made a promise to yourself. The next step is to take action and move toward your dreams. How?

Look back at the dreams you’ve written down. Take one of them and break it down even further. What do you want to accomplish in the next 30 days? Write down what you need to do every day to reach your 30-day goal.

Then, take action. Do something even if it doesn’t feel like it is taking you closer to what you really desire. Move. You might make mistakes, but this is part of the process. You learn and grow from mistakes, which move you forward.

Here are some other things to keep in mind:

1. Take responsibility for your dreams.
2. Continue to work on your thoughts because how you think about things really matters.
3. Make your reason behind your dreams big enough that you are willing to move beyond obstacles.
4. Commit to studying and learning every day.
5. Act as if success is certain.
6. Share your dreams.
7. Stretch your mind and see all possibilities.

When you train your mind to focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want, you are utilizing the law of attraction. This allows you to dream and to believe you can achieve. It provides you with the faith needed to take action. What remains is taking the first step and then the next and then the next until you are not just thinking about your dreams, but you are living them.

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at sherrymwinn@gmail.com, through her website at www.ucancreatesuccess.com or on Facebook.

Law of Attraction: You Get What You Give

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By Sherry Winn

I heard a heartbreaking story the other day about parents who disowned their daughter because she came out to them as a lesbian. Their religious beliefs held that being a homosexual was a sin, so they chose not to love the “sin” of their daughter. To them, it also meant they couldn’t love their daughter.

I include this story not to determine who is right or wrong. It is not about the rightness. It is about the choice of love and the choice of judgment.

Why is this important in the law of attraction?

What does it feel like when love is removed from your life? Take a moment to reflect on how that feels. Can you remember a partner deserting you, a parent withholding affection, or the loss of beloved pet? When you think back on that loss, what do you feel?

Anger?
The desire for justice?
Abandoned?
Unworthy?
A hole in your heart?

If you sit in silence and allow yourself to move through that experience, does it feel like an old story absent of emotion? Or does it still hold some negative vibrations within you? If you can tell the story without your stomach getting queasy, your heart aching, or tension in your shoulders, then you have left the story behind you. If you still have a body part or emotion attached to the story, you have not given yourself permission to move beyond it.

When you hold the absence of love within you, you are holding negative vibrations. You are not permitting the greatest source of energy to flow through you. Positive vibrations are necessary to attract more of the things you love.

It is easy to believe we can love some people and hate others — that there is some line we can draw between love and hate as if this invisible barrier makes us immune to the negative vibrations of hate. It is okay to hate others who are bad. Right?

There is a quote from “A Course in Miracles,” which states:

“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see in him, you will also see in yourself. As you treat him, you will also treat yourself.”

We cannot separate the emotion we feel for others from ourselves. When we offer hatred, disgust, revulsion, misunderstanding or judgment toward others, it does not somehow jump on them and leave us. We are left with the residue of those emotions. We harbor them. What we think we give to another is, in fact, what we offer ourselves.

The law of attraction is about vibrations — positive, free-flowing vibrations. If you want to attract love, but withhold love, are you offering both a positive and a negative vibration in the same moment? Are you contradicting yourself? In truth, you are pulling in opposite directions and wanting one side to win.

The question to ask yourself is: What side do I want to win? The side which withholds love from another because I do not understand or agree with him, or the side of me which believes I am worthy of unconditional love even though I cannot give it?

Maybe you judged the parents who disowned their daughter because they wanted to honor their religious beliefs. Or maybe you judged the daughter who is a lesbian. It is not the question of who you judged. It is the question of how the judgment feels within you.

When you judge another, what are you judging about yourself? And how does that judgment feel?

It is the feeling that determines your ability to attract. The more negative vibrations you have within you, the harder it is to attract what you desire. How do you learn to be more loving and nonjudgmental? This is a lifelong quest, but you can begin with simple steps:

Become aware of how the emotions you are emitting feel inside you.
Practice saying, “I love you” to yourself.
Engage in the art of empathy.
Recognize judgments as they come and release them.
Align yourself with people who are on a quest of personal development.

The law of attraction is the law of positive vibrations. By learning to love more and judge less, you are aligning yourself with greater opportunities.

Paul Scheele: Optimizing the Brain for Successful Relationships

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What if you could reprogram your mind to be happy no matter what, to improve your self-esteem and to become magnetic to people around you so all your relationships could improve?

Paul Scheele, co-founder of Learning Strategies Corp., combined his background in biology, human development, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), accelerate learning and more, to help other achieve the results they want in relationships, work, money and health, easier and faster then through traditional methods. He is an expert on learning how to tap the other 90% of the mind (the subconscious) and his work has been used by several well-know, peak performance experts such as Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, Ken Blanchard and Brian Tracy.

Speaking on the Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Soul Summit, Scheele explained how we can reprogram our brain to improve relationships in both our business and personal life, rather than running on the old programs set years ago.

“What we can do is install more positive, more functional strategies within us that allow us to get the results we truly desire,” Scheele said on the call, explaining most of us are operating on the dysfunctional programs given to us by our family, society, religion, etc. “If [the mind] is running on autopilot, the autopilot has been trained historically in an unquestioning way. We have accepted a lot of programming of our culture, which contains a lot of blind spots.”

Scheele explained how the different parts of the brain operate, including the part known as the reptilian, which gets activated when we are afraid for our safety, and around that, the mammalian or limbic system, devoted to emotional safety. There is also the neocortex, devoted to judging and making sure our reality stays in tact, he explained.

“The exciting thing being discovered by researchers today – the next evolutionary step – is called the prefrontal cortex or frontal orbital cortex, and this is where we are actually living into the emerging future,” he said on the call. “If we can learn to make values-based decisions, rather then decisions based on fear, worry and doubt, then we are transcending and moving into what our full potential is — what is really trying to emerge.”

Using NLP, Holosync technology and his expertise in preconscious processing and accelerated learning, Scheele developed Paralminial technology – an idea that came to him in 1976 before the technology was available to carry out his ideas.

“In 1981, my business partner and I had a cassette recorder with stereo microphones, and one of us what speaking in one channel and the other in another channel. One would do a guided visualization, and in the other ear the person was guiding the listener in a step-by-step process of change,” Scheele said.

A similar technique is used today, but with the sophisticated digital recording available, the Paraliminal technology is even better. “It uses neuro-linguistic programming and language, speaking to both sides of your brain simultaneously to access that vast non-conscious mind and put you in touch with the resources to accomplish what you want,” Scheele explained. “These go right into contact with those resources already within you.”

For the Living an Elevated Existence Summit, Scheele put together a package of four paraliminals – Instantaneous Personal Magnetism, Self-Esteem Super Charger, Positive Relationships and Happy for No Reason – along with two videos, including “Love and Long Life,” with bestselling author and relationship expert Dr. John Gray. Summit listeners can purchase the package for 60 percent off the retail price.

Recipe for Successful Relationships
When looking at the word ‘relationship,’ the key part of is ‘relating,’ said Scheele, who shared his four core abilities for relating. These are:

1. Kindness, Compassion and Appreciation – “Very often we are raised with very shame-based ways of communicating. ‘What is wrong with you? Can’t you do anything right? I hear you, but you’re wrong.’ How do we tap in to see the awakened self in another,” he said, explaining the Indian tradition of placing our hands on our chest and saying Namaste is about the divinity in us seeing the divinity in another. “So this idea of developing kindness, compassion and appreciation for another is so huge.”

2. Accepting Personal Responsibility – We need to move from being dependent in relationships to interdependence, said Scheele. We are the creator of our own happiness and need to take responsibility for that rather than relying on another person.

“A real, healthy relationship is one which is an interdependent partnership. So we are eliminating helplessness, and we are really realizing our true power as individuals,” he said. “We feel that it’s better to be with each other. We are stronger. We have more fun, and it’s companionship. But if you don’t’ fulfill your 50 percent of the relationship, I’m not 50 percent lost. We each come into the relationship at 100 percent.”

3. Choose Honest Self-Reflection and Truthfulness – Choosing honest self reflection and truthfulness requires a certain amount of vulnerability, and in her studies, bestselling author Brene Brown found the one thing that correlates with overcoming shame is vulnerability, Scheele shared. What is requires is to reflect and go for the truth with ourselves and in our relationships.

When we have done something we feel bad about, often we choose not to tell our partner because we don’t want to hurt them. However, we are then living a lie, which takes a lot of energy, he noted. Instead we can speak from a place of truth.

We can say, “I really want to share with you something that I don’t’ feel good about. I feel sorry that I did it, and I would like to make it right with you, and I understand that if you can’t tolerate the thought that I’ve done this and you need to leave the relationship, then that is my responsibility, and I get it. You need to take care of yourself but here it is,” said Scheele.

4. Honor the Space Between Us as Unique – “I have me and you have you, and when we come together, there is a space between us that is ‘we’ or ‘us,’ and there is a mutual benefit of being here intentionally,” he explained. “It’s not important what emerges between our ears, it’s what is between our noses, and that is what is called presencing. It’s being present and sensing what is emerging that is more valuable then me living my life alone and you living your life alone.”