Law of Attraction: Shifting the Paradigm to Manifest

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By Sherry Winn

Let’s start off by defining a paradigm? It is the reality in which you live. In other words, it is the model, the pattern and the template of how you perceive the world. In order to find success in the law of attraction, you need to shift how you experience the world.

For example, let’s take goal setting. You have probably planned and took action, and there have been times life sent you three curveballs in a row. You may have perceived these as something outside of yourself, and outside of your ability to control. You may have believed that no matter how much you planned, it really didn’t matter. Life had rules of its own.

This is your model. You have lived it and heard it all your life. You believe you can control your reactions to events, but you don’t have the power to control the events themselves.

You’ve based your entire life on having a positive attitude, seeking the best within situations. You’ve been able to take difficult situations and find happiness within them. You feel good about this. And you should. You are happier and more joyful, but you are not living the dreams you desire. You are accepting life as it is.

Is this bad? No. It is a great step toward living your dreams because you are raising your vibration by being positive. Having high vibrations are a crucial step toward attracting what you want.

However, there is a difference between believing you have to accept what you have now and finding happiness within it, and intentionally raising your vibration knowing you are not yet where you want to be.

Total Responsibility
In order to live the law of attraction, you need to believe you are absolutely responsible for ALL things that happen to you — the good and the bad. OUCH! When I first heard this, I balked at the idea. Who wants to believe they are attracting being fired, chronic pain, or being dumped by a partner?

I know for a fact, I never said, “I want to develop chronic pain and live in agony for years.” Who would say that? I do know, though, that I believed the following:

Life wasn’t fair.
Bad things happened to good people.
You don’t get to choose your life. You get to choose your attitude.
Whatever will be will be. The future is not ours to see. (K-surah, surah)
We don’t get everything we want. Life doesn’t work that way.
There is not enough good to go around, so some people get stuck with the bad.

Can you see where my paradigm was stuck? Even though I didn’t want chronic pain or to get fired, I believed in a philosophy of life that determined the way I saw the world. I expected life to be unfair. I anticipated pain. I believed certain unpleasant things were just going to happen to me.

Due to my belief system, I was attracting what I thought about most of the time. I was responsible for creating the emotional and physical pain I felt.

Acknowledging the Creator Within
In order to live the law of attraction, a true shift had to take place. I had to believe I had more power than I realized. This was scary to acknowledge I was born with a gift to create. I was a creator.

You, too, are a creator. We create with our thoughts, which determine our actions. Imagine what would happen if you shifted your belief system to include total responsibility. What would happen if you were able to change your thoughts to believe you had the power to create your life, not just accept it?

What would happen if you changed your philosophy like I changed mine?

Life is fair.
Things happen because we attract them.
You get to choose your life by changing your thoughts.
The future is ours to create.
We get what we believe we can have.
There is more than enough. We can all live abundantly.

Can you see now how a shift in paradigm can change how the law of attraction works for you?

Sherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.

Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking.

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at sherrymwinn@gmail.com, through her website at www.ucancreatesuccess.com or on Facebook.

Forgiveness Raises Our Vibration

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By Sherry Winn

Do you know shame and guilt are the two lowest emotions you can have, and that holding onto them puts you in a love vibrational state?

It is essential to feel good in order to attract what you desire in life, and you cannot get there if you are holding onto a past incident, wanting to punish yourself or someone else.

Can you remember an incident where somebody hurt you in a way you thought you would never recover? Like most people, I have a past full of wounds. I have stories about how people betrayed and abandoned me. I believed people hurt me and caused me to bleed in such a way my wound would never heal. In fact, I made certain it wouldn’t.

Why? Because I held onto the painful memories. I thought I had to because if I let them go then the people who hurt me would not be punished. And who would remember the pain and be the keeper of those lessons so that they wouldn’t happen to me again? When I used to think of those memories, I would go right back to anger, shame or even guilt. I kept those emotions within me because I thought I needed them.

But when we do this to ourselves, we are moving away from what we desire because we are planting ourselves into a low vibrational state.

Forgiveness is About You
You might not believe you want to punish yourself, but do you remember doing something you thought was bad as a kid and all you wanted was relief from that feeling of guilt? After your parents punished you by a grounding you or giving you a time out, did you feel better? After you were punished, did you let go of the incident more easily?

Now, when we lie, cheat, steal or hurt somebody else, since our parents are not there to punish us and make us feel better, we often punish ourselves. We overeat, drink too much, take drugs, become workaholics, anorexics or bulimics. We find ways to beat ourselves up because we feel we don’t deserve to have love, health or wealth.

Can you feel the negative energy emanating from the thought of punishing yourself? And how long do you need to punish yourself before forgiveness?

The law of attraction works on positive vibrations, and the feeling that you are living your dreams. How can you live the feeling of already having what you desire when you don’t feel you deserve it? If you are struggling with issues of forgiveness, you are blocking yourself from receiving the abundance the Universe has to offer.

Forgiveness allows us to clean up our vibrations. It puts us back on the path of feeling good. The higher our vibrations are, the higher we raise our energy to the place of receiving.

How do we learn to forgive? Here are some concepts that helped me learn to forgive myself and others:

1. Nothing is either good or bad. It just is. It is a step in our growth and learning.

2. We choose our lessons on earth. People who come in our path are part of those lessons. What we do to others is a part of their lesson.

3. The highest power on earth is love and therefore the highest vibration. Love trumps everything else. We do not love ourselves or others when we hold grudges.

4. Forgiveness allows us to move forward. Being unforgiving pulls us backward.

5. Everything that happens to us is for our own highest good.

When we are able to let go of our judgments of others and ourselves, we are raising our vibrations. Once we disperse with anger, shame and guilt, we begin to allow abundance to enter our lives.

Jack Canfield’s Secret to Achieving Goals Faster

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Setting goals is the first key to attaining them. In addition to writing goals for every area of our life, including career, relationships, finances and health, Canfield recommends choosing a “breakthrough goal,” which is something that would provide a quantum leap and change our life dramatically. It could be writing a bestselling book, tripling our income or losing 50 pounds.

Once we have it set, we can apply what he calls the “Rule of 5,” meaning we commit to doing five things each day to move us closer to that goal. This not only allows us to focus on the goal, but also to take action steps.

“It gives you a multiple approach to any problem. By doing five things a day, you have a much better shot at getting any goal you want to achieve,” Canfield explains in the September 2013 issue cover story, using the example of losing weight. “A lot of people just follow a diet, but what if they applied the ‘rule of 5?’”

As an example, here are five things someone could do each day to achieve weight loss, according to Canfield:

1. Cut back on carbs in the diet
2. Drink 10 glasses of water each day to help detox and flush out toxins
3. Deep breathing exercises to raise your metabolism
4. Take a walk each night after dinner
5. Read something inspirational about weight loss

He also shared what he calls his “Big 5,” which he created for his daily business life:

1. Write for at least one hour
2. Read for at least one hour
3. Appreciate at least five people on his staff every day
4. File anything that comes across his desk, or delete it if it’s an email so he doesn’t have clutter building up
5. Manage his staff by walking around and checking in to see how their work is going, and if they need anything such as resources or help

At home, he has a list of five personal actions to do each day. These include:

1. Exercise
2. Meditate
3. Visualizations and affirmations
4. A gratitude exercise
5. Perform a daily review at the end of every day

“The daily review is for whatever I’m working on improving. So if I’m working on having more patience, I will close my eyes and ask myself where I could have been more patient during the day,” he says. “Invariably one, two or three events will come up, and what I do is visualize how they would have gone if I had been more patient.”

Whether we are working on patience, perseverance, assertiveness, being more effective or even a discipline of returning phone calls, we can use this visualization exercise to “lay a blueprint for the next day in the subconscious mind,” and we will see it improve over time, he says.

Additionally, to bring more gratitude into his daily life, he now spends at least five minutes writing in a journal to list all of the things he is grateful for in his life – from the carpet in the house and the person who wove it, to the plants in his office and his wife for watering them.

“Rarely do we actually stop and express that gratitude to God, source energy or the universe,” he notes. “There is so much we have because of other people’s efforts. Just the fact that the sun came up and we didn’t have an earthquake in California today. The more I have done this, the more magical life seems to get.”

For more from Canfield, see the September 2013 issue cover story, where you will learn:

— The spirituality and synchronicity behind much of his success, including Kundalini yoga and meditation

— 4 techniques for overcoming fear and limiting beliefs

— Book recommendations from his personal reading list

— The 30-Day Principle to creating lasting change

Why the Law of Attraction Works Every Time

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By Sherry Winn

Why should you believe in the law of attraction? After all, you didn’t read about it in school textbooks when you were taught all the important laws of the universe, like the law of gravity and Einstein’s formula for relativity: E=mc2. If it wasn’t written about in your science book, and you didn’t hear about it in philosophy, psychology or history, then how do we know it’s true?

Well, thanks to scientists, we now know we have something called “mirror neurons,” which are neurons that mirror the behavior of others who are being observed. In other words, when we observe somebody smiling at somebody else, that same pattern of brain activation that allows the person to smile is emulated in our brain. Even though we might not physically act on the behavior, the same areas of our brains, the regions that prepare the body for movement and attention are triggered. This means our brains mirror the actions of the other person automatically.

Think about this for a moment. When you are watching a television show or a movie, how do you physically react when tension is building? Even though you are not a part of the scene, your heart is racing; your stomach gets tense; and the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, even though you know it’s only a movie. This is because your brain is copying those you are watching.

Through brain imaging, scientists have also detected a portion of the brain called the amygdala. This is the part of the brain that hosts the limbic system or the “fight or flight” system, which is where our fears are recorded.

When people are shown pictures or photographs of fearful faces, the amygdala is stimulated in the observer creating the same fearful response. What is more intriguing is people whose brains have been damaged leading to blindness still have their amygdala fire up when they are subjected to fearful faces.

And what is perhaps more intriguing, is there are ways to change the experiment so people are entirely unaware they are seeing those fearful faces. However, when you look at their brains during the period they are unaware of seeing the faces, the amygdala still activates.

Thus, fear in others will register in our brains as fear. Another person’s lit up amygdala will light up our own. We “attract” the fear to ourselves because we are connected to other people and their brains instantly. That is why anxious people make other people anxious, and fearful people make other people afraid.

The good news is, similar principles apply to happiness and expected reward when our brains will light up those centers that correspond with these emotional states in others.

What Energy is Behind Your Thoughts?
When it comes to the law of attraction, whatever signal you are sending out is being received by a similar vibration. Take a second to inventory what type of thoughts you are sending out into the universe.

Before you are convinced you’re sending out positive thoughts, look behind the thought. In other words, let’s pretend you want a new job and you are continually asking for the new job. Your thought is you would like to have a new job. That single thought emits a somewhat neutral energy. In fact, it could be positive energy when you think about the great things a new job could offer you like a higher salary, better working conditions, shorter hours, and a competent boss.

But what is the energy behind that thought? Maybe you are desperate for a new job, because the job you are currently working is stressful. You need more money to pay your bills. You feel anxious, stressed and even desperate. When you are thinking about a new job, even if you can see some of the potential of the new job, where is your energy mostly focused — on the positive aspects of a new job or the fear of not getting what you want?

This is where quantum physics comes to play. What does quantum physics teach? In a nutshell, the Copenhagen Interpretation by Niels Bohr explained it is meaningless to ascribe any properties or even existence to anything which has not been observed, but the problem with this is that whatever is observed is changed by the observer. So, in essence what we expect to see is what we see.

This is where we can understand the law of attraction is true!

Our thoughts and our emotions are energy.
Both of these are interrupted by what we expect to see.
Our emotions behind our thoughts actually emit a stronger signal.
When we can align our emotions with what we desire, we are aligning the energy to our expectations.
We are then creating our world through our thoughts and emotions, because we are what we observe.

Perhaps you weren’t taught the law of attraction in school. Heck, maybe you weren’t even taught the basics of quantum physics. BUT know that you can control the creations of your universe. It is time to learn to use your power to manifest your desires!

Using a Training Principle to Build Law of Attraction Success

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By Sherry Winn

A few years ago, there was a big explosion around the law of attraction (LOA) due to the book, “The Secret.” The law of attraction was a buzzword. It seemed everybody was saying it. People were grabbing onto it like a lifeline, spouting out the words they had read as if the words themselves were going to produce mass miracles.

Then, like most fads, the fervor died down a bit. Many people claimed it was a conspiracy, a lie, or a plot to make money. After all, they had tried the philosophy behind the law of attraction and it had not worked for them; therefore, it must be false.

The problem with most people is when they heard about the law of attraction, they wanted to use it to solve their biggest issues on the first try. This is a little like being drastically out of shape and then deciding on your first run to conquer a marathon. If you had never run in your life except in elementary school on the playground, it might be a bit naïve of you to expect success on your first run.

If you were training for a marathon, even if you had been running three miles a day for several years, you wouldn’t go out on your first day and try to run 26 miles. You would know to gradually increase your mileage from three miles to six to 10, and then an occasional very long run. You would not expect your body to be able to adapt to 26 miles just because you decided you wanted to run that far. You would understand the necessity for starting small and building toward success.

This training principle is exactly the same for learning to use the law of attraction. You want to start with small steps, gain confidence and then build toward bigger goals.

In fact, when I heard about the law of attraction and the premise of it sounded so simple, I decided I wanted to heal my principal issue, chronic pain, which had caused me the biggest heartache. This made sense to me, because if there was a solution to my chronic pain, then I wanted to be able to cure it.

Here were the challenges that occurred for me when I went after my biggest issue first:

1. I was too wrapped around the issue emotionally.

2. My emotions were charged with negativity (pain and fear).

3. I felt intense desire (which feeds the lack of something).

4. It was difficult to get in alignment with the feeling of having something when I NEEDED it so badly.

5. Because I had not experienced success with working with the LOA, I was working from a place of doubt, which brought in negative vibrations.

Needless to say I wasn’t successful which made me initially believe the LOA didn’t work, but because I was an athletic coach at the time, I also knew the importance of breaking down a skill in order to learn it. I decided to train for the LOA like I would train for a game. After all, I would never expect my athletes to succeed without breakdowns and repetitions of the skills I wanted them to learn.

Some of the things I learned which helped ease my pain and give me my lives back are:

1. I practiced on something which wasn’t highly charged for me emotionally like getting a parking space.

2. I focused on seeing what I wanted and feeling myself having it.

3. I let go of any of the attachment I had to getting it.

4. I had faith and belief that it would come to me at the right time.

5. If I didn’t succeed on the first try, I let it go. Beating myself up over failure only added more negative energy.

I learned, as I practiced, I could manifest more things.

AND you can too.

Start with something small, something that doesn’t have a highly charged emotion attached to it. Gain confidence and knowledge, and then build toward your other goals.

– See more at: http://www.elevatedexistence.com/blog/2013/06/05/the-law-of-attraction-how-many-times-should-you-ask-to-receive/#sthash.3ImNf6nt.dpuf

Attract Your Soulmate Now: Lisa Nichols on Becoming Magnetic

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Bestselling author and CEO of Moving the Masses, Lisa Nichols joined bestselling author of “The Soulmate Secret” Arielle Ford on Day 2 of the online series “Attract Your Soulmate Now,” to discuss how to become magnetic to our soulmate and use the power of prayer and affirmations to break through negative and limiting beliefs.

“My most basic core principle for manifesting love is to be the mate you want to attract,” Nichols told Ford. “Make a list in extreme detail and then become that list.”

She also shared the three types of relationships experienced in life: Lifetime, where the relationship stays with us; Life-Giving, which is often short-term and can be from one day to two years; and Purposeful, which have a divine purpose or several purposes, and when the purpose is complete, the relationship ends.

“Life-giving can be a chance encounter, but we have the most challenge with purposeful. We could have met that person in order to start a business, or for children to be born, or to find our voice,” Nichols said. “The quality of your life-long partnership depends on how much completion work you did on the past relationships because otherwise you are bringing all that in.”

Limiting Belief Exercise
During the event, Nichols shared an exercise to overcome limiting beliefs about relationships, something she learned years ago when attending a Transformational Leadership Council meeting with Jack Canfield in Aspen.

“I do a lot of mirror work, so go to the mirror,” she explained. “First write down the limiting belief you have around love. This will come from the face of fear, doubt and anxiety. This belief does not empower you. You run from this belief.”

In order to uncover this belief, we need to go to the place that isn’t “so bright” in our lives, but it’s important not to stay or get stuck there, Nichols said. It’s about uncovering what is looming there and bringing it to the light so it will no longer have power over us.

The next step is to take the limiting belief and rewrite a new statement to become a new mantra – no more than one sentence. For example, during the seminar with Jack Canflied, Nichols uncovered a limiting belief that she would never have long-lasting, forever love, and turned it around to, “I am worthy of long-lasting, amazing love.”

“It has to be something you can chant, and can only have positive words. It shouldn’t have ‘can’t’ or ‘won’t’ like ‘I won’t be alone.’ It should be short, sweet, powerful and counteract the negative,” she noted. “Then get in the mirror and literally sing the mantra every morning right after you brush your teeth. You make the mantra a rhythm and you reprogram yourself with that mantra.”

It also helps to have other people who can say it to you and mirror it back.

Finding the Gift
Speaking about divine timing, Nichols explained every experience we have in relationships – with friends or romantic love – is prepping us for our soulmate and teaching us lessons. It all serves a purpose.

“When I made a list of every relationship I ever had with a man, I [found] the gift I was given in the relationship,” said Nichols. “Now mind you, some gifts may have come wrapped in sandpaper. Some gifts did not feel good to get, but when I unwrapped it and unpacked it, I got the gift.”

She offered the following steps to help others heal themselves from past relationships by finding the gift or gifts they were given from it:

1. At the top of the paper, write down “My Purposeful Relationships.”

2. Circle and underline the word purpose.

3. For each relationship write, “The purpose I was in this relationship was for,” and complete the sentence.

4. Look at and read the list, and say, “I appreciate and celebrate my purposeful relationship, and since the purpose has been completed, so has the relationship,” for each one.

“You are more of who you are because of that relationship,” she noted. “You learned lessons, got blessings. I don’t ever say, ‘we broke up,’ I say ‘we are complete.’ That puts a period at the end of the sentence as opposed to a comma.”

If after writing a purpose, we can’t say, ‘I’m complete,” then keep writing because once it is over, if we tried to go back, it would not be the same, said Nichols.

“It’s the image you give it,” she said. “We freeze-frame our relationship at the best point and then we cut and paste it into our mind, thinking it will always be that. It’s a fantasy and our reality is paying for it.”

Every single experience we have makes us who we are today, Nichols said. As a result, our soulmate will get the best version of us.