By Sherry Winn
Do you know shame and guilt are the two lowest emotions you can have, and that holding onto them puts you in a love vibrational state?
It is essential to feel good in order to attract what you desire in life, and you cannot get there if you are holding onto a past incident, wanting to punish yourself or someone else.
Can you remember an incident where somebody hurt you in a way you thought you would never recover? Like most people, I have a past full of wounds. I have stories about how people betrayed and abandoned me. I believed people hurt me and caused me to bleed in such a way my wound would never heal. In fact, I made certain it wouldn’t.
Why? Because I held onto the painful memories. I thought I had to because if I let them go then the people who hurt me would not be punished. And who would remember the pain and be the keeper of those lessons so that they wouldn’t happen to me again? When I used to think of those memories, I would go right back to anger, shame or even guilt. I kept those emotions within me because I thought I needed them.
But when we do this to ourselves, we are moving away from what we desire because we are planting ourselves into a low vibrational state.
Forgiveness is About You
You might not believe you want to punish yourself, but do you remember doing something you thought was bad as a kid and all you wanted was relief from that feeling of guilt? After your parents punished you by a grounding you or giving you a time out, did you feel better? After you were punished, did you let go of the incident more easily?
Now, when we lie, cheat, steal or hurt somebody else, since our parents are not there to punish us and make us feel better, we often punish ourselves. We overeat, drink too much, take drugs, become workaholics, anorexics or bulimics. We find ways to beat ourselves up because we feel we don’t deserve to have love, health or wealth.
Can you feel the negative energy emanating from the thought of punishing yourself? And how long do you need to punish yourself before forgiveness?
The law of attraction works on positive vibrations, and the feeling that you are living your dreams. How can you live the feeling of already having what you desire when you don’t feel you deserve it? If you are struggling with issues of forgiveness, you are blocking yourself from receiving the abundance the Universe has to offer.
Forgiveness allows us to clean up our vibrations. It puts us back on the path of feeling good. The higher our vibrations are, the higher we raise our energy to the place of receiving.
How do we learn to forgive? Here are some concepts that helped me learn to forgive myself and others:
1. Nothing is either good or bad. It just is. It is a step in our growth and learning.
2. We choose our lessons on earth. People who come in our path are part of those lessons. What we do to others is a part of their lesson.
3. The highest power on earth is love and therefore the highest vibration. Love trumps everything else. We do not love ourselves or others when we hold grudges.
4. Forgiveness allows us to move forward. Being unforgiving pulls us backward.
5. Everything that happens to us is for our own highest good.
When we are able to let go of our judgments of others and ourselves, we are raising our vibrations. Once we disperse with anger, shame and guilt, we begin to allow abundance to enter our lives.
Sherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.
Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking.
To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at sherrymwinn@gmail.com, through her website at www.ucancreatesuccess.com or on Facebook.